Do I Need a “Final Resting Place”?

Let’s face it everyone will have one, a final resting place that is. The questions you should be asking are where is it? Can it be found in the future should a family member want to do so? Is the final resting place protected? Is it hallowed ground? Will the place endure?

Most of us know exactly where our great grandparents are “resting.” It’s in a cemetery somewhere. Even when the grave is half a continent away and we never get there to put flowers on the grave, we know where they are. Will our grandchildren know where we rest?

For those who would like to be buried in a cemetery

·     Fear not. There are spaces available check with your funeral director for advice about where to look.

·     Worried about the environment? Again, ask your funeral director about green and greenish burial options. 

·     Concerned about cost? Consider the resale market. Many family’s plans change. Families resell cemetery plots they will not use at a lower cost.

For those who plan to donate their body to science

·     Know that in most cases the cremated remains will be returned to the family at some point and will require a plan for the final resting place.

·     Always have a back-up plan just in case the body is not accepted for donation.

·     Talk to your funeral director about how to put together a memorial service to take place right after death since it may be months or even years before ashes are returned to the family.

For those who will be cremated

·     Consider your many options carefully. You may want to discuss them with your funeral director. There may be final resting options you are not aware of.

·     If you plan to scatter ashes, give thought to the location and how family members will be impacted if the golf course is sold and turned into a go-kart track? Keep in mind that if you belong to a faith such as Catholicism, the Church does not permit scattering and would instead advocate for a permanent final resting place.

·     Talk to your funeral director about keepsakes such as paperweights that incorporate some of the ashes or jewelry that can hold a small amount of cremated remains. Again, if you belong to the Catholic faith, this is not permitted.

·     Be aware that final resting place means it must endure for generations to come. Will your children’s children still want your urn in their home? 

·     Know having a viable plan for the final resting place is the most often overlooked step for those who cremate. Not addressing this issue creates a burden for someone in the family as time passes. Talk to your funeral director.

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